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4.5
First I have to say that this book should be required reading for every woman, whether single, in a relationship, married, doesn't matter. I highly recommend it to all single women especially because the author equips you with the information to recognize a dangerous man, how to recognize red flags, and how to avoid being this guys' next victim. Even women in a relationship with a stellar guy can benefit from this book, because chances are she will at sometime be called upon to give other women relationship advice, and the knowledge she gains from this book can keep a friend, relative, or coworker from placing themselves in harms way.Now I will say, despite the title, you won't be able to spot a dangerous man just by looking at him so as to avoid him altogether, unless he's doing something obvious, like wearing a gun or robbing a bank (but you wouldn't need the help of this book to recognize that those guys aren't Mr. Right anyway). Brown spends some time explaining what dangerous men are, what red flags are, how to recognize them and use them, and then she devotes one chapter each to profiling 8 kinds of dangerous men: the permanent clinger, the parental seeker, the emotionally unavailable man, the man with a hidden life, *the mentally ill man, the addict, the abusive or violent man, and the emotional predator.Each chapter on the different kinds of dangerous men describes their character traits, actions, the kinds of women they target, why they're successful, stories of women who encountered these kinds of men, a red-alert behavioral check list, and a strategy for keeping oneself from being victimized by these guys. Brown is constantly reminding the reader that dangerous men don't necessarily look dangerous. They can be intelligent, well spoken, charming, well-dressed, gainfully employed, financially stable, and even appear religious. So spotting these guys from afar and totally avoiding them may not be possible. What you will be able to do after reading this book is have enough information to recognize the warning signs that the guy is iffy early on, when it's easiest and safest to walk away.I am very thankful this book was written. Highly highly highly recommend.*And just so you know the author's not trying to be mean, the mentally ill men she defines as being dangerous are not just men who are "a little slow". These are men whose illness causes them to behave in violent, unpredictable, or destructive ways.Miss. Pen & Paper - Marriage for Christian Singles blog
