By Himself: The Older Man's Experience of Widowhood - Coping with Loss, Finding Solace & Rebuilding Life After Losing a Spouse | Perfect for Grieving Seniors, Support Groups & Self-Help Readers

This book has caused me to look at situations differently. It is not often that the couple-friends liked the deceased more than the recent widow/er. People often refrain from inviting widowed people because the widowed person has not made clear whether or not s/he wants to talk about the loss. These friends are grieving for their friend. Some widowed people enjoyed cooking treats for their spouse; therefore, they want to cook things for other people. Such acts do not make them 'predator widow/ers.' I have talked to my friends and our couple friends about my loss so that they feel comfortable talking about their loss of my spouse, their friend. I have been careful not to pre-judge these situations where people are just being friendly and enjoying doing things for others. This book gives ideas on how to stay active socially with new and previous couple friends and singles. Widowers in this book point out dangers of re-marrying to have a cook/housekeeper--that should have been obvious to all of us. This book was helpful to me. I passed it on to a widower friend, and he passed it on. I recommended this book to yet another widower friend, and he found it helpful. Nothing is going to make widowhood easy, yet this book makes widowhood a little easier.